It is only natural when a relationship begins to spend as much time as possible with our partner. But let's pay attention to the pace the relationship develops. Was "I love you" said too soon, do we find ourselves bombarded with texts and phone calls at times when we are busy demanding that they be answered immediately? Yes, jealousy is an element that exists in all human relationships, but excessive jealousy? When he wants to know where and with who you are any time and stocking you online or live? Excessive jealousy brings possessiveness and lack of trust, perhaps even feelings of threat. Surely love does not feel like this. Our family and friends are our safety net. If we see that they are trying to take us away from them by planting seeds of doubt about what existed in our past life, the goal is to isolate us so that we are vulnerable and dependent. Love requires independence, two people who want to spend time together but also have time for the people and activities they did before.

Words, when used as a weapon of belittling, with malicious jokes or stories against us. Our partner should support us, words should lift us up and not tear us down. To make us feel confident and that our secrets are protected. In addition, frequent breakups and reunions, tensions, dramas, and fights with hurtful comments, followed by apologies and recommitments create insecurity.

The more of the above signs we see in a relationship, the more problematic and perhaps dangerous it can be. And if our instinct tells us to leave, if there is a fear that the relationship is heading towards violence, we need to consult experts to guide us on how to leave safely.

The way we want to be treated should be the limit we set for every relationship and we need to find the strength to speak up when this limit is not respected. Love is an instinct and an emotion, but the ability to love better is a skill we can acquire and improve